Starting Over
About the Book
Starting Over opens with a bold premise: divorce is not the end but the beginning of a new chapter. Written with empathy and practicality, this book guides men through the emotional and practical steps of rebuilding their lives after the end of a marriage. With the modern dating landscape often feeling overwhelming, it offers reassurance that healing, rediscovery, and personal growth are not only possible but essential.
The book divides its advice into actionable sections, covering everything from processing grief and rebuilding self-confidence to crafting an engaging dating profile and recognizing healthy relationship dynamics. It provides a comprehensive roadmap for navigating dating apps, managing rejection, and setting boundaries with intention, all while encouraging readers to define their personal success and avoid rushing into relationships. Whether looking for companionship, casual connections, or something more meaningful, the guidance here is rooted in emotional resilience and purposeful decision-making.
At its heart, “Starting Over” is more than just a dating manual—it’s a call to embrace a second chance at life. Practical tools, reflection prompts, and honest advice encourage men to grow into the best version of themselves. The journey it proposes isn’t merely about finding someone new but about becoming someone fulfilled, confident, and aligned with their values.
Read an Excerpt
“How to Enjoy Casual Dating Without Leading People On”
Casual dating can be a healthy way to reconnect with yourself, meet new people, and explore what you want in a relationship. It can help you build confidence, practice your social skills, and have fun without the pressure of long-term expectations. However, to make the most of it, it’s essential to approach casual dating with clarity and honesty. One of the most common pitfalls is ambiguity—if intentions aren’t clear, misunderstandings can arise. Early communication about your goals ensures that both you and the person you’re dating are on the same page, avoiding unnecessary heartache.
“Balancing Your Intentions with the Other Person’s”
Just as you need clarity in your own intentions, it’s important to respect the goals and boundaries of others. If someone expresses they’re looking for a serious relationship and you are not, it’s crucial to acknowledge the mismatch and gracefully part ways. The goal isn’t to lead someone on, hoping things might change. Instead, having open, honest conversations about your intentions builds respect and prevents misalignment from the outset.
“Building Confidence Through Small Wins”
Confidence isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress. Set micro-goals each day, such as taking a morning walk or reconnecting with an old friend. Each step you take reinforces your belief in yourself. Celebrate your efforts, not just the outcomes, because the process of showing up matters just as much as the results. Embrace casual dating as an opportunity for growth, focusing on what each experience teaches you rather than chasing immediate results.