Modern Chivalry
About the Book
Modern Chivalry is a refreshing take on an ancient concept, challenging outdated notions of chivalry and redefining it for the complexities of modern life. While many think of chivalry as simply holding doors or paying for meals, author Jerry Hudson explores it as a way of living with kindness, integrity, and respect. With shifting social roles and evolving expectations, the book offers practical insights into how men can embrace thoughtful behavior without falling into stereotypes or performative actions.
At its core, the book encourages men to move beyond superficial gestures and develop a mindset centered on values like mutual respect and self-discipline. Through relatable scenarios and advice on navigating relationships—be they romantic, familial, or professional—it shows that chivalry is about being kind without expectation and respecting boundaries without trying to control outcomes. Hudson balances tradition with progress, offering guidance on how to embody these principles authentically in a world where politeness can sometimes be mistaken for weakness.
From the importance of practicing self-respect to tips on communicating effectively in the digital age, Modern Chivalry provides readers with actionable strategies for becoming a better version of themselves. Rather than prescribing a rigid set of rules, the book empowers men to adapt these timeless values to their own lives, cultivating stronger connections and healthier relationships. In the end, Hudson’s message is clear: true chivalry is not a performance—it’s about showing up each day with integrity, kindness, and intention.
Read an Excerpt
Chivalry isn’t about specific gestures—it’s about intention. It’s the reason behind the gesture that matters. Holding a door open isn’t inherently chivalrous—it’s just good manners. But doing it because you value kindness and respect makes the gesture meaningful. On the other hand, if you perform these actions expecting recognition or praise, they lose their value. Chivalry isn’t about earning points or winning approval—it’s about living in a way that reflects your values, regardless of whether anyone notices.”
“At its core, practicing chivalry in romance is about thoughtfulness and balance. It’s about recognizing the value of small actions and gestures, giving and receiving in a way that creates harmony, and treating your partner as an equal while still finding ways to express care. This chapter explores practical ways to integrate modern chivalry into your romantic life, helping you build a relationship where kindness, respect, and shared responsibilities thrive.”
“Chivalry in the modern age is about balance. It’s about demonstrating confidence without arrogance, strength without aggression, and kindness without expectation. Each interaction—whether with family, friends, colleagues, or strangers—offers an opportunity to lead by example. The most powerful lessons are taught not through words but through actions. Boys and young men naturally look to the men in their lives—fathers, older brothers, teachers, coaches, and mentors—as models of how to behave. If we want the next generation to embody chivalry, we must first embody it ourselves.